Sharing their Experiences

What do women who have relied on Christian Homes & Family Services have to say about their experiences? Below are just a few of the letters our maternity caseworkers have received.  

“I wanted to say thank you for everything that you have done for me. For helping me find the right family, for being there for me, for listening and explaining things, and for overall being a friend.

Thank you so much. I appreciate it more than words can say. You have helped me understand and realize more than you probably think or could ever know. You are a very special person who has touched my heart and my life. I will never forget you and hope that we can stay in touch, after all this.

I know that God is going to give me the will and strength to get through this and let me know I did what is right and the best choice. I believe that. Once again, thank you gratefully for everything.”

“Thank you for making me feel like a real person who actually matters. You boosted my spirits and took care of me in a mothering way. You made it all easier. I think God blessed me by putting you in my life.

When I collapsed after seeing (the baby), I just wanted to sit there on the cold hard floor forever. Maybe to punish myself, maybe to feel sorry for myself, I’m not sure—but I dried my eyes and stood up, and I think that it is the strength you gave me that lifted me off the floor.

I wanted to scream at everyone to stop touching me. I wanted to say “Quit looking at me! You don’t understand my pain—my little girl is a ‘can’t have’ not a ‘don’t want’ and I can’t even have a private goodbye with her.” I was mad more than hurt.

The pain turned to anger, and then I imagined the baby in the adoptive mother’s arms, where she belongs and I felt better. She doesn’t belong here in this government housing. She’d be here for many years, there would be no way Jim and I could get out anytime soon. If we’d kept her, we would be struggling and unhappy, which would be bad for her, our other children and us.

The stress in my pregnancy proves just how much we are struggling right now. One point that really made it clear was that if the stress hurt her now and made her arrival difficult, wouldn’t that be an issue for her to deal with in the future? Stress and unhappiness—most likely.

With all of these thoughts and remember your encouraging words I was able to stand up. When I got off the floor, I decided to just get on with it and not use anger or pain to torture myself. I have done the right thing for her, for the kids and for Jim and I.

They say for every child that is born there is a star. I have a new saying: For every birth mother who chooses adoption, there is a rebirth—hers.

Thank you for bringing me into this new world.”

“I hope this finds you well. Thank you so much for your kindness. I am doing well. I don’t think I ever told you how much I appreciate everything you did for me. You are such a kind person. I wish you all the best and I want you to know how happy I am with my choice.

Melissa and Gregg are such a wonderful couple, and I know that they will give Josiah a wonderful life. If there is ever anything I can do to help you, please let me know. I would be more than happy to show my support for adoption. It is such a wonderful thing, everyone wins and nobody loses.”

“I just wanted to let you know how incredibly special you are to me. You showed me how to turn in a difficult time in my life into a positive for someone else. Although it is something that you do everyday, I just wanted to be sure that you understood how you touched my life. You are an amazing woman and I thank you for everything.”

“I would like to let you know how much I appreciate everything you have done. I feel like you make this much more than just a job. It takes a very special person to do this. Thank you for helping me through all of this. You have been like a friend to me, not just a case worker.

I just really want to say how much I appreciate you for being so caring. You made a very difficult decision a little easier and helped to put my mind at ease.”

“Thank you for all of your caring support during, and after my pregnancy. Isaac is truly a blessing and has made me the woman I am today. You are a very special person and will always hold a place in my heart. I will never forget you, or Christian Homes.”

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